WHAT CAN ONE DO TO FILL THEIR MARRIAGE WITH GRACE?

1. REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE – You are a human being. This reality means you make mistakes too. You aren’t always right. You probably have made a similar if not the same mistake. In Biblical terms, you are a sinner, as we all are. The Bible says to “take the plank out of your own eye” because we all have faults and need to take responsibility for ourselves first. 2. HUMBLE YOURSELF – Humbleness is remembering that you are no better than anyone else. It’s the ability to not be prideful or arrogant. It’s the ability to look at everything around you and see how truly insignificant you are as compared to the vastness of the universe. By humbling ourselves, we react less intensively because we realize, it’s not about me. 3. IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU, SO DON'T MAKE IT ABOUT YOU! – As mentioned above, it’s not about you because a person is not so important that “EVERYTHING” is about THEM. I tend to think that everything someone around me says must be about me. When I take a step back, I realize how irrational and silly that sounds. That might be what some psychologists call paranoia, yet all of us wonder what others think about us. Could it be that when your spouse says something negative, it’s not about you? It’s could be more about her needs or desires for relationship and connection. Choose to see each situation in a broader vision. There is more to this life than little me. You will react in more grace instead of negativity by seeing outside your world. Attempt to be. 4. UNDERSTANDING AND LISTEN – Understanding and listening are the two cornerstones to great communication. If you understand and listen to your spouse, you will be able to determine better the meaning of his/her words and actions, resulting in less emotion and increased grace when your partner messes up. You will be able to empathize with them and understand how they feel. 5. BE MERCIFUL – Mercy is simply not punishing someone even though they deserve it.